Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Time for a Vent

So I haven’t updated this blog for awhile. Part of the reason was over the holidays I was stressed out and busy as heck. After that the reason I didn’t update it was because there was something I wanted to write but which I haven’t taken the time to sit down and write. The point of this blog was for my poetry. But it is my blog and I can do what I want with it (right??) so I decided in this case to use it as my venting board. My vent would be on religion and politics and particularly how they affect people and their attitudes.

Several months ago I made a new friend. We had different opinions on things when it came to politics and religion. For the most part this didn’t seem to be an issue until I totally disagreed with something that was said. The result was a very upsetting and inappropriate response that was extremely offensive and a personal attack on me. I was surprised to say the least.

I have never been one to get on the political or religious bandwagons. Politics I just don’t generally understand. Seriously how can anyone 100% most of what is said. You take one speaker and have two different people listen to the political speech and both of the people in the audience can draw totally different opinions and understandings from it based on their own personal feelings. Who is right? Who is wrong? It isn’t just black and white because each person draws from their own personal experience and beliefs. The same applies to religion. Each religion has their own beliefs and ideas of right and wrong.

I have attempted to take the time to follow politics and understand what the arguments were all about. However, I quickly loose interest time and again because it so frequently ends up being a personal attack given by one person or the other. Why should I listen or try to listen to your side of the argument when you back up what is said by saying “you are an idiot if you believe X, Y or Z.” Insulting my intelligence does nothing to help me understand your side or make me even feel the desire to see your side.

Does anyone every truly like to be insulted? Not anyone that I know. I respect that people have their own beliefs when it comes to politics and/or religion. That is great! But using either one as a justification for a personal attack on fellow people with emotions, feelings and beliefs just doesn’t seem right to me. What happened to respecting others? What happened to treating people the way you want to be treated? Does calling me or someone else an idiot because we have a different belief make people really feel better? In so many ways it seems like a grown up version of a kindergarten fight on the playground.

“I think Legos are better then Tinker Toys.”
“Why?”
“Because I said so and you are stupid.”

“I think Bush was better then Obama.”
“What do you base your opinion on?”
“Because he does dumb stuff and if you can’t see that then you are an idiot.”

Seriously, what is the difference between the two arguments? Neither has any supporting data or evidence one way or the other and both simply turn into personal attacks. You can substitute some religious belief in either scenario and have the same argument occur.

Frankly I don’t care what political party you belong to. I don’t care what religion you belong to. It makes no difference to me if you are a patriot, a republican, a loyalist, a democrat, catholic, Mormon, Jewish, Muslim or Hindu. I don’t care if you are a man or a woman, straight or gay, fat or skinny. What I care about is the human spirit and the way that people treat others. If you can treat others with respect and understanding as opposed to finger pointing and name calling then you will earn my respect and my ear to listen to what you have to say.

You want me to be on your political and/or religious stance then lead me by example of good character and compassion, not through insults and belittling statements.

3 comments:

JoJo said...

Rodney King put it best, "Can we all just get along?" I was saying tonite to Brian that nothing's EVER gonna change b/c everyone has their own agenda and no one respects anyone else's opinion.

I try really, really hard to steer clear of politics and religion, esp. on Facebook. I have very conservative friends and very liberal friends and I love them all.

Humans are just so wretched to each other, the planet, animals...we really are a repugnant creature.

Word verif: sheri

Joan said...

Amen, sister! I completely agree with you, especially the "lead by example". Why do people think that resorting to name calling is ever going to win their support.

"Dude, your an idiot"
"Cool, let's be bestest friends"

Pa-lease. It is just a reflection on how little they know themselves. If you can't explain your reasoning in a calm, rational manner, it's because you don't really understand your own beliefs. I think far too many people allow themselves to be spoon fed their "opinions" by their family, religious organizations, the press, and TV; and most of the time they have put little or no thought into actually learning about both sides and coming to THEIR OWN CONCLUSIONS. It makes me absolutely crazy! Can you say "herd mentality"? And we worry about losing our freedoms, ha, we give them away daily each time we regurgitate some hate message without blinking an eye.

Siobhan said...

Joan I actually had a political conversation with mom a few weeks ago regarding this whole health care thing. She was 100% for it. Now I will be the first to say that health care in this country has issues. You and I have both seen it first hand. Something needs to change. What I don't agree with is the way that Obama went about getting his new plan in place. I explained my concerns to her and she did her "mom thing" and was upset to a point with what I said because she was all for it. The next week I went over and she apologized and said she did some further checking into it and that I was right about what I had said and that it was just not handled exceptionally well.

I just don't understand why people have to be so darn mean when it comes to their political or religious beliefs, particularly the religious beliefs. I don't know of any religion that actually has it written in their bible or other writings that says "insult thy neighbor if he doesn't agree."